Eldering Defined

By Jim Selman

Eldering is a vision for growing older. It is an opportunity to have the rest of life be richer and more rewarding than you can imagine.

“Vision is having an acute sense of the possible. It is seeing what others don’t see. And when those with similar vision are drawn together, something extraordinary occurs.”

Shearson Lehman


ELDERING is transforming your experience of growing older.

How you view the world and what’s happening affects your choices and your experience of life. Many people anticipate later life will be all about loss, decline, lack of purpose and resignation. It doesn’t have to be that way. Eldering is about changing your perspective so you can experience growing older in a way that allows you to have the rest of your life be the best of your life—filled with love, health, happiness, creative self-expression and being valued to the end.


ELDERING is relating to people of all ages with respect and dignity.

Who a person is as a human being is more important than their race, creed, color or age. Eldering calls you to transcend age in your relationships with others and to be willing to listen for what each of us has to offer.


ELDERING is living life as a contribution.

When you share the best of who you are, you have purposeful conversations that matter. You are generous with your time and energy. You listen non-judgmentally and give people your full attention. Rather than focusing on contributing knowledge or information (which quickly becomes obsolete or redundant), you share your wisdom—your insights and perspectives, your “way of being” in the world—in a way that brings out the best in others and helps them live life more successfully on their own terms.


ELDERING is creating our collective future.

Being valued comes from making a contribution. And making a contribution starts with seeing what is wanted and needed in the world and then mobilizing others to take actions that make a difference. This is why it is so important to develop relationships—especially with those who care about what you care about. Instead of waiting for someone else to find solutions to problems, you can make a difference by connecting ideas, collaborating with others who are passionate about your interests, and creating possible futures that you’d like to live into. Rather than trying to control, manipulate or resist what’s happening, you can accept “what is” and then share the possibilities you see with others.


ELDERING is learning and growing throughout your life.

You remain curious about what’s going on in the world, open to new input and inspired by other people and what they see and do. Each new day offers you the opportunity to expand your experience of being the best you can be.